• In Which I Become Seven Different Kinds of Pissed

    So, it’s not often that I’m irked to the point that I want to call someone out. But this article has the hairs standing on the back of my neck. Apparently, according to a psychologist out peddling her new book, romance novels are as addictive in women as pornography is in men.

    She goes on about brain chemestry and whatnot, drawing parallels between a man’s brain activity while viewing porn to a woman’s emotional gauge while reading romance. Now, I might be naive, but, hasn’t it been established a long time ago that men are sexually stimulated by visuals, while women are stimulated mentally and emotionally? And since when did being sexually aroused lead to addiction?

    Reading is an escape. It’s fantasy brought to life in your mind. And I’ve blogged here before about the draw of that fantasy and the need for it in mundane, everyday life. I whole-heartedly disagree with this psychologist’s assertions. I’m a ravenous reader of paranormal and urban fantasy romance. I read a book a week, sometimes more. And I can safely say that I don’t foam at the mouth or experience the DT’s when I’m not reading a steamy sex scene. I don’t get the shakes and rock back and forth on the floor when my mind isn’t filled with visions of the quintessential Alpha-male seducing me against my better judgement.

    How do you guys feel about this load of crap? Does it have any merit at all? Talk amongst yourselves…I’ll give you a topic… Oh, wait! I already did! ;)

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9 Comments to "In Which I Become Seven Different Kinds of Pissed"

  • Shawntelle
    Shawntelle says:

    May 31, 2011 at 12:04 pm -

    Since I read at least one book per month, I think it’s safe to say I’m not an addict.

    Or could I be? *sly wink*

    To be honest, anything can be an addiction. I could be addicted to eating Cheese Whiz. But the fact of the matter was that the wording in the article gives the assumption that romance books are addictive period. Gimme a break!

    All I say is show me some definitive scientific papers with some real numbers… Until then, I’m heading off to write and then read some romance.

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  • Cassidy says:

    May 31, 2011 at 12:29 pm -

    Hi, my name is Cassidy and I’m an addict. (I think.) I read 110 books between October and April. I’m still reading one or two books a week, but the weather is getting really nice so I like to go outside and do other things. But, I too do not experience DT’s, foaming, shaking or any signs of withdrawal. Shouldn’t I be? Because I’ll be honest Ms. Sayer-Giles, I like it hard-core. Full-frontal nudity? Yes please! Biting, f*cking, sucking, horns, claws, up against a wall, on the hood of a car? I’ll take ‘em all! But here’s the thing, that’s not all I want in a PR/UR book; it HAS to have a good story line. I don’t want to read about getting up in the night with babies, washing dishes/laundry/or floors, making meals, writing bills, or anything I do EVERYDAY. That’s why I read- it is fantasy, it is fun and it is entertaining. As for my marriage? I’d wager it lasting longer than any relationship in which you tell the woman the root af her marital problems are due to romance novels. Get real. And Ms. Sayer-Giles, if you’re just upset about not selling more books maybe it’s you who should change genres.

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  • Michelle McLean says:

    May 31, 2011 at 2:27 pm -

    LOL ditto to what Cassidy said :D I suppose if you are not eating, paying your bills, caring for your family or your own personal hygiene, spending your rent on new books, engaging in unsafe reading activities with multiple libraries, or practicing any other detrimental romance reading related habits, then yeah…you might have a problem. If you are reading romance novels to the exclusion of all else, to the point that your work and your relationships are suffering, then yes…you might have a problem.

    But seriously, how often do you hear stories like that? Porn ruining jobs, relationships, lives? Yeah, unfortunately you hear that a lot. But romance novels? Please.

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  • Sandy
    Sandy Williams says:

    May 31, 2011 at 8:19 pm -

    @Cassidy Holy cow! 110 books between October and April!? I’m jealous! :-)

    People who don’t read romance are always bashing romance. I’m learning to tune it out. At least, I can tune it out on the web. If someone started bashing it in front of me, I don’t think I’d be able to keep my mouth shut.

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  • Cassidy says:

    May 31, 2011 at 9:39 pm -

    @Sandy Williams: I blame Mandy 100%, I had no idea what I was missing out on!

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  • Renee Sweet says:

    June 1, 2011 at 11:13 am -

    I love this line from the article: “This seemingly harmless pastime, however, is not as harmless as it may seem.”

    Ooooh. *shivers* Who knew romance novels were so SINISTER!

    Also, this: “There is a wonderful real world out there to explore. Get out there and invest in your real life.”

    Wow! I didn’t know that time spent reading wasn’t part of my “real life.” Who knew that books were part of a warping of the time-space continuum!

    Honestly? I just find the article laughable. Like Sandy said, someone’s always ready to point the finger at the romance genre, despite the fact that it’s a steady, high-grossing facet of the publishing industry that brings happiness to so many people–women AND men.

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  • Nadia Lee
    Nadia Lee says:

    June 2, 2011 at 10:15 am -

    Did you see one of DA’s commenters saying that the website that published this drivel is “a shill for LDS church culture”?

    Regardless, expecting my husband to love and respect me is not unhealthy or deranged.

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